Date Archives March 2020

Lessons I Learnt From Being A Chief Bridesmaid

My friend Bisola got married on the 14th and 15th of February 2020 and I was her Chief bridesmaids *a round of applause everybody *

Well, this isn’t my first attempt at being a Chief Bridesmaid or Maid of honor , I was going to have my debut Chief bridesmaid role sometime in 2018, but I couldn’t make the wedding because of work engagement.

Hence when my friend Bisola initially asked me sometime last year after her proposal, I told her I wasn’t interested but she bullied me and I accepted as always.

So here are few lessons I learnt during the whole process.

– It’s not about you, you have to be selfless: This really was the most important lesson learnt. In as much as I love to play dress up , take selfies and all, the role of a chief bridesmaid involves you making sure the bride is fine in every aspect and for me this started even before the wedding ceremony.

The wedding planning period for the bride was exhausting, hence I was her go to for some decisions, lamentations and ideas . You will also have to agree with the bride regarding your choice of outfit, hair styles , accessories etc.

Of course on the wedding day, I had to make sure she was fine most of the time, fanning her, holding her bouquet and dragging her heavy wedding dress as she walked down the aisle and strutted everywhere.

Take a look at the beautiful (heavy ) dress. Lol

You might have to get your event coordinator skills on.

Everyone is asking the Chief bridesmaid for the champagne glasses, knife to cut the cake, calling your phone to ask where the couple is after the church ceremony.

You will need to rally round the bridal train together to take pictures while the guests are waiting in the reception hall and organize them when it’s time to dance in with the couple.

Was it compulsory? no, but it was necessary.

The bridal party

You will be the Official Photographer of the Day

Sometime last year when one of our mutual friends Chisom got married, Bisola told me that I had to be on top of my game to get wedding pictures and videos to be available before her official photos come out. I knew that I had entered my own with this chief bridesmaid role.

Therefore on her wedding day, I had to serve my inner Jide Odukoya photography skills so we could serve the right pictures and videos to the world, because we know that if there are no pictures, the event didn’t happen, lol.

Just look at that beauty.


You definitely need to have your game face on.

And this face can switch from hype girl to bridesmaidzilla if there’s a word like that. There were times I had to lock the bride’s room while she was doing her makeup so as to reduce the number of distractions from family and friends. One of the bridesmaids had to make a side comment was too extra but I decided to take that as a compliment with no hard feelings .

Not necessarily a game face but look at me!!!

Get ready to go through roller coaster of emotions.

Seeing that I had known Bisola for a long period of time, I could share in her emotions during the wedding planning ceremony which ranged from that initial ‘Am I sure I want to get married’ to ‘Yasss, I am a married woman’ .

I am sure I would have shed few tears of joy on her wedding day but my role as the lifter of her wedding dress didn’t give me the chance to do so.

Love this picture from their traditional engagement ceremony

– It really doesn’t end after the wedding.

Yes, it doesn’t, especially if you are really friends with the bride. It’s essential you check up on her to know how she’s faring after the wedding. Yes, you most likely would not have the perfect ‘how to be a best wife’ advice but there’s nothing like having someone who cares for you and gives you that emotional support.

Happy Married Life to The Ojo’s !!!

There are few of the lessons I learnt from my role as a chief bridesmaid. Yes, I was stressed, I had to sit down for a while in the middle of the ceremony after we had a sos moment when her second dress couldn’t zip up ( story for another day) . But it was such a memorable experience and yes , it was worth it !

So, have you ever being a chief bridesmaid and could relate to any of these lessons? Please share your comment below. Is there any other lesson you picked from being a chief bridesmaid? Please share your comment below. I would love to read them.

Till Next Time,

Love and Light.

From Your Fave,

Tostos

My Amazing Vision Board Party

It’s funny how I get ideas and just hop on executing them immediately they come to my mind.

That was how my last Vision board Party happened. I was in bed thinking and the idea came to mind. Immediately I put it up on my WhatsApp status and some people signified interest.

Anyway the vision board held on Friday December 27th 2019 and it was such an amazing experience for everyone present.


Shoutout to my brother in law for this dope poster. Check him out here

The guests arrived on time ,earlier than I did, and connected well before my arrival. I was so jealous of how people that haven’t met before could be so cool in few hours.

Outfit by my friend John, check out his new collection here


I also liked that it wasn’t just about making our vision boards but the honest conversations we had about personal development and 2019 in general. We talked about Letting go of the past which was anchored by Nneka of legallysmart and also discussed on goals setting which Nike of NigerianBossLady anchored.

Nneka was really passionate about letting go..

Nike teaching us how to set them goals!!

Another enlightening session was when Tolu asked everyone if they were victims of Black Tax and this singular question took us to a new level in our conversation. Someone shared how her grown sister was always depending on her for upkeep and how tiring it was while Sarah (who coincidentally was celebrating her birthday that day ) gave an amazing advice on how she could change that story . Well, if you missed, so sorry, maybe next edition.

Tolu aka Minister of Black Tax Affairs.

Sarah with the golden advice. Her story is beautiful 

Then we went on to make our vision boards, we began by listing the things we wanted for 2020 and starting cutting out images that represented those things from the array of magazines we had.

Everyone had the opportunity to share their vision boards and imagined the future they wanted for themselves.

An event that was to end by 4pm had us there till 6pm where we eventually had to carry ourselves and our vision boards home( thank God I booked the venue for the whole day)

A few people like me hadn’t completed my board and we had to promise ourselves to finish it up before the year ends.

Indeed it was a very great experience for me and I am super grateful to God for the opportunity to host it.

All pictures were taken by Tolu of Encorephotography, check him out here

I would also like to say a big thank you to people that supported me in Cash and Kind ; My Sister Tolu, Desola, Titi, Tsolaye, JohnPelumi and everyone that was present . You guys are the real MVPs!!

I am also grateful for the reviews I received ; Nike said she loved how the quality of conversation were rich and enlightening while Nduka said it was worth his time and he felt better just by putting his 2020 plans on a Vison board.

What about you ?

Do you believe in Vision Boards and Do you have one? If yes, how are your plans for 2020 turning out ? If No, what’s your take on Vision board?

Pleas share your comment below, I would love to read them and know your thoughts .

Till next time.

Love and Light,

Your Fave.